When There Is No Other Path, Turn To Gratitude

A Blog Post by Judy Thompson, Director Mind Body Services:

It is during our most difficult moments, when we may feel like we can go no further, endure no more pain, suffer in silence no longer, and just stand in the disbelief that is our life, that we are given the greatest opportunity to become and learn that which we need the most. What we seek, we can provide, but it is often fraught with great agony and suffering, and usually more so, it is a long, long, path of resistance, fighting (with others and ourselves) and agony. In my own life, I can recount certain movie-frame snapshots in time that feel ingrained in my mind, as if they are residue and “proof” that I have served my time and deserve my accomplishments and joys.  And how beautiful it feels to exclaim such a pronouncement, but in truth, I know my mind will certainly try to convince me, quite quickly, that I don’t deserve to rest and pause, as I have more work, more jobs, more goals and more responsibilities to complete and cross off my checklist before I can even rest and pause.

BUT, when I can mindfully pause at this junction, I know that a pause and time for gratitude, reflection, and compassion is exactly what I need.  Pausing into a time for Gratitude, sets the mind to be more resilient to the regular onslaught of negative emotions and habits, welcomes in more positive internal dialogue within self, offers a deeper connection to others and reminds one of their inherent value as an individual and human being.  It is grounding and reality based. Through a regular daily practice of gratitude, we have the capacity to wire into our brain, new circuitry and paths  of resilience, well-being, and positive felt sensations, with the ability to review, replay and ingrain them into a place of familiarity, safety and knowingness…and truly in such a way that the prompt of Gratitude practice as a action, just becomes a felt sense of knowing, rather than naming, and of feeling, rather than labeling.

Gratitude = knowing and feeling and thus becoming….

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Strong Silent Type: Male Trauma

First Person Blog Series on Male Trauma

There is an amazing book by Terrance Real, LCSW- “I Don’t Want to Talk About”, it is the bible on male depression and trauma from his treatment accounts of working with men presenting in all manner of suffering and the people who love them.  It is complete with extensive statistics and examples of how men suffer from being male, depressed and traumatized- based on the too often painful paradigm men follow, to be a man we somehow lose our masculinity if we admit our vulnerability; we lose our man card if we break the silence of our suffering. 


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Somatics, anxiety, anger & neuroplasticity

A Blog Post by Judy Thompson, Director Mind Body Services:

Sometimes when I feel alone or sad or misunderstood I want to run. Run away from my life, people who don’t understand me, people who I’ve decided look at me funny, and the pressures and pain of my failures and non-accomplished goals. The thoughts come, I pay attention to them, and I spin myself up in a fury of anger, fear, sadness, worry and despair. Emotions are very good at controlling our attention, after all, they are energy in motion. But all of these emotions, especially the anger, fear, sadness and worry, don’t really present well, feel good, nor bring us closer to our authentic self.

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“Love is to be renewed everyday”

The couples that comes to sit and meditate out loud, (couples therapy), with me have many things in common.  As with all  they approach therapy seeking to understand, as Thich Nhat Hanh has illuminated, “Misunderstanding is the source of all suffering”.  If we do not understand the person we are trying to love then in trying to love them our way we may in fact be hurting them.  So couples come into session to be still with each other and to understand HOW to love their beloved properly.  It is through understanding the others needs and hopes and heartfelt desires that we love well.  Pain and heartache is the clue that we are not loving or being loved well; we are misunderstanding something.

Renewing love softens the heart
Renewing love daily softens the heart
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The New Year of Intentionality…Again

This time of year for a psychotherapy practice is the busiest. This is the month of the “new me”, the “new you”, the “new us” resolutions and promises. These are the agreements we make to ourselves, to our children, to our lovers to reach toward change; reach towards more love, more patience, more understanding, more meditation, more presence, more… They often feel and sound familiar, these are the intentions we have been intending all of last year, the whispers or shouts from that part of us, that place inside of us that holds our truths – our true selves. How do we get so lost, how does this awareness get so vague, when we recognize so completely what we know so clearly?

Lao Tzu Quote

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